Just Another Tuesday

Nothing going on today.

I was busy this morning with HR (which is handled in another state) and filling out their forms on a change of address and direct deposit. It wasn't as easy as you think. Like I've mentioned before, the HR staff isn't the most reliable bunch.

One item mentioned to me about the direct deposit change (even though I am still going to have a portion of my paycheck deposited into my current account) is that it may take up to three pay periods before it's complete; which translates to about six weeks. I don't see how that is possible; it's a simple process of where HR submits verification to the bank that the bank account exists and has the correct name on it, right? Why would this take six weeks to complete? Meh; I just have a feeling that this simple request will not happen in the appropriate time frame quoted to me and that more than likely, the request will be forgotten and that I am going to have to get medieval on their arses. Good grief, it took nearly two months for them to complete my exemptions change (the last paycheck had the correct amount of exemptions taken out for both Fed and State, finally).

****There was something else I wanted to mention, but I can't remember anymore****

Poor Greg has been so busy at work. He didn't get home until 8:30 last night. The only bright side is that he's getting a lot of overtime, but isn't spending much time home (and he misses me). Hopefully, he'll have his annual review today and we'll find out how much his raise is. Last year, he was promoted to Assistant Manager and we're eager to see what the review states. It would be awesome if Greg receives his 'usual' raise amount and then I am promoted at work and receive a raise (I did apply for the position I mentioned earlier; not sure if I mentioned that or not). Oh, did I mention that my job is offering a huge referral bonus (more than a couple thousand dollars; yes, you read that correctly) and my friend that I used to work with at PRP might be considered as a candidate and if she's hired and remains with MX for 6 months, I will be thousands of dollars richer? I will learn in a few weeks if she's going to be hired or not; the manager is out of the country until sometime next week and when he returns is when he's going to conduct interviews.

It's hard to believe that I've been here for almost a year. Sometime last week, I was chatting with a co-worker that was in my training and reminded him of the time we've been here and we both agree that this past year has flown by. It's funny to us because when we started together, neither one of us ever thought we'd be parents within the coming year, when talking in retrospect.

Greg and I are doing quiet well, relationship wise. No major fights or arguments, yet; who knows what's going to happen once we're completely on our own together. But, considering that we've been together for four whole weeks and still no major disputes or arguments, I count that as a good thing! I remember when Adam and I first moved in, within the first 2-3 weeks we had a huge fight and told him that I wanted to break up and everything. I never forgave him for what he did (he didn't hit me or anything), and I never told my family about it (though he told his family what he did). I told Greg about it and he said he would never, ever, do what Adam did, no matter how mad. But, that is all in the past... I am looking forward to the life that Greg and I are going to have together. I believe he's going to 'allow' us to marry on 10-10-09 since he hasn't said anything against that date, except a few times we've talked about getting married sooner (because we are eager to buy a house within the next two years). I've been thinking that it could be possible that Greg and I marry each other this time next year... after all, Greg and I have known each other and have been the best of friends to each other for nearly two years (08/20/05 is 'the date'); if we weren't meant to be, we wouldn't be where we are today...

Speaking of Adam, I called the Circuit Court today because I haven't received anything in the mail about the divorce filing. Well, according to the person I spoke with, they assigned a case number (good, it means everything is in progress) and that they mailed the 'Summons Packet' to me the week of July 18th. Well, I haven't received anything; as a matter of fact, I haven't received any mail since I did my change of address on July 23rd! This worries me, since I am no longer able to check the mail at the townhouse (all keys were returned on July 31). I've tried calling the local post office, but the number is always busy. Figures. It would be nice to be able to get this all done and over with.

Let's see, I started this entry at 1:00 and it's not 3:40. My life is so exciting.

I've noticed that I have new 'regulars' out there; there are 2 in Virginia, someone who uses AOL (didn't even know people still use AOL now a days) and there is this weird one... I love Bravenet because it shows me the link where someone came from, if the visit wasn't a 'direct hit', and lately there's been these visitors with the same IP address, but the referring link is different, though when I click on it, it takes me to the same place. Odd indeed.

Meh. To each their own.

Alright, I am done. I've got other things to vent about somewhere else...

Finally!

Something positive has happened!!!

This afternoon, Mom, Greg, Sean, Aaron, Amelia and I went to the potential complex that I was 'approved with conditions' with, checked it out and accepted!! The townhomes look great! In fact, Sean and Aaron liked them so much they even applied and accepted a unit! And, for the referral, Greg and I are going to get a $250 bonus check from the rental complex. Good times! Mom was excited because we're all going to be living practically next door (but more like across the parking lot).

Greg and I are moving in June 28 and Sean and Aaron are moving in July 20th. This works out great because Sean and Aaron can help Greg and I move and then we can help them move.

This morning, Mom and I gave Amelia a bath in the kitchen sink. Check out the pictures on my Flickr account. There are a few really cute pictures.

So, the landlord is coming over tomorrow. Maybe. We never know when she's really coming over. She cancels all the time. But, in any event, we've been cleaning since about 10:30pm. I cleaned the upstairs bathroom, sorta. I need to buy more comit to clean the tub. Greg and I started the kitchen. Then, Sean, Aaron, and I actually started packing the living/dining room! OMG, we've actually begun to pack!!

Also, this past Friday, I received the signed divorce papers! I just hope everything is correct. I don't know when I am going to be able to go to the court house in Annapolis; I am thinking on the days that I am going to request off for the move.

This and That

I do believe this is the lastest I've started a new post on a new day. I've been reading a lot online today, all the while making and receiving phone calls for work. Eh, it's been an ok day for productivity. I am planning on doing most of my 'work' later in the day; but, I say that everyday. LOL

Ugh! Have I mentioned that I hate summer? Summer is the least favorite season of mine. I prefer Winter/Fall than Spring/Summer. I hate the heat and humidity. I hate the bugs and air quality (even more so with my asthma). The only plus to summer is going to the beach, but I haven't been to Ocean City, or any beach for that matter, in five plus years. Maybe Greg and I will go this summer, but I'm not pushing it. Some may argue swimming is a summer bonus but my rebuttal is there are indoor swimming pools that allow you to go swimming anytime of the year. Ugh! I don't like summer one bit!

Last night I received an email from Adam notifying me that he has mailed the papers to me. So, we'll see how long this takes. I haven't replied to him, I don't see a reason as to why. When I got the email (it was fwd to my cell phone as a text - Love Cingular), I called my Mom to let her know since she's always asking. She was like "Finally!" and "Good riddance". She never disliked Adam, but she didn't 'approve' of him because he was such a baby in her eyes. She felt that Adam couldn't do anything for himself. Adam wasn't a bad guy. The only 'issue' was that he was never, if ever, happy. He always had a dark cloud over him and he never tried to get ride of said cloud. And, eventually, his dark cloud was starting to grow over me and I decided that I didn't want to 'share' his dark cloud and told him. So, rather than seek help to remove his dark cloud, he accepted the separation. His loss. I don't feel he's any happier now than he was when we were together. I get this impression from his emails. He's stated that at times he feels moving to PA wasn't the best solution. He's having no luck finding a job up there either. Meh, not my concern anymore.

Last night I had the dreaded 'work dream', which is when you dream that you're at work. It was interesting because I was asking about my commissions/bonuses. I don't recall any answers, if any, about my questions.

Tonight, Greg comes over!!! Yay! I really enjoy spending time with Greg. This past weekend, we spent four consecutive, glorious days together. I believe that's the longest we've spent together. I seriously can't wait until we find a place and start our lives together. Greg called the condo guy last night but he never returned Greg's call. Greg and I don't know if that's a bad sign or not. But, I am being optimistic and thinking that the condo guy is busy since his wife had a baby last Friday and whatnot. I suggested to Greg to wait a few days and then call again if we don't hear from him before hand and Greg agreed.

Today is Van's birthday. I believe he turns 65 today, if my memory serves correct (and it usually does). I've tried calling to wish him a happy birthday, but I haven't been able to reach him or my Mom.

Over the weekend, Greg and I were talking about one of his ex-girlfriends. So, we decided to look her up on MySpace, because just about everyone under the sun has a MySpace page. Anyway, we were able to find her! What prompted this search was that Greg kept telling me that I look like someone but he couldn't put his finger on who, then out of the blue he says I look like one of his exes and I HAD to look her up. To me, she looks much older than her actual age. To me, I don't see any resemblance. So, we went through her posted pictures and what not. I asked him if it was weird looking at her now and he said yeah and I am sure I would feel the same way. He proposed to this girl. Thankfully, and to my benefit and advantage, they never married. Today, just because I was bored and I like to read and stuff, I searched for her MySpace page again and she's set it as private. Oh well, it was fun while it lasted.

Curious, has anyone else ever looked up an ex on MySpace or Y! or any of those type of websites? I have, though I wasn't successful in actually finding them. But, I did find my ex brother-in-laws page. I've thought about saying hello and stuff, but haven't done so. I've also thought about calling them, but again, I haven't. I don't know if I should because I don't know if that would be crossing the 'ex' lines. I got along well with everyone, no conflicts of interest or anything. I just don't know what to really talk about other than to ask how they are doing and things related. It would be weird to talk about Amelia since she has no relation to them. I don't know, in due time I suppose.

Monday Musings

Yep, there were other surprises with the SSA!

Ok, so I go in just to get a letter confirming the number was assigned to me. Simple request, right? Well, not to the person that called my number. First, she thought I was trying to verify the other name that appears on my number and that took about 5 minutes to correct. Then, we learn that the date of birth on my number has been entered incorrectly on the last change (Feb. 04 due to name change) and the rep begins to correct that without informing me and she begins to ask for my SS Card, ok got that, drivers license, ok got that, birth certificate, uh no - only hear for a letter, passport, uh no - again, I'm only hear for a letter. Then she gets someone to help her because she can't override the system to correct my date of birth because I don't have all the forms of verification. Uh, lady, I am only here for a letter confirming that the SS number was indeed assigned to me. Then, after about 25 minutes, she realizes my true reason this visit and prints a letter for me. Good Grief! Now, I have to go back to correct my date of birth and figure out who this guy is using my SSI. Joy. But, this is all going to have to wait until Greg and I find a place and move.

Greg and I talked a little bit more about my future engagement. He says he's going to make is super special and I suggested proposing at an O's game and he said no because he would rather do the proposal somewhere more intimate than around thousands of people. I can see his point of view, but at the same time, if someone is going to ask me to marry them, I want the world to know! Even more so if someone is going to do the proposal right! I've told Greg that I am already excited about this pending proposal even though I know it won't be happening anytime soon; nor am I expecting it anytime soon. Greg and I want to make sure we are capable of living together before we commit the rest of our lives together. But, from the amount of time we have already spent together, I don't for see any issues that would prevent us from being together for the rest of our lives.

Of all the time that Greg and I have spent together, we haven't had any arguments and that's amazing. We've had a few 'issues' but nothing that jeopardized our relationship, plus the 'issues' weren't arguments so I don't even know if they really count. Greg and I have been friends since August 2005. He considered us 'dating' around May 2006 and then we become 'committed' to each other in February 2007. So, we have some history though not a lot. And, what's nice is that we were friends before dating and really got to know each other. Greg tells me that he felt some connection to me only after a few get together. Which is funny because after Greg and I met for the first time I didn't think he was ever going to contact me again with me being as shy as I am. But, he obviously felt differently and I am very thankful that he doesn't judge a person by their first impression. Since then, Greg and I have been in contact every single day, except for the time that he drove to Detroit to see his Dad in Sept 2005. I have every single email he's ever sent me and there are well over a thousand emails. He's told me that he's saved my emails as well. I feel Greg and I complete each other. I never felt that with Adam. I don't have to give up things that make me happy to make Greg happy since Greg and I enjoy the same things; whereas with Adam it was always what he wanted to do or watch since we didn't have as many common interests; and sometimes I wouldn't go with him to things he wanted to do. It's great to be with someone and to do things together because we enjoy them together.

Speaking of Adam, he sent me an email on Friday telling me that he is getting over his pneumonia and will be mailing the papers out asap since he doesn't want to drag the process. I don't know if I believe him anymore. Greg and I feel he's been lying to me as to why he hasn't mailed out the papers sooner. His replies are always something outrageous (like when the post office or Staples didn't have any envelopes large enough to send the papers back). He's had the papers for over a month now (I mailed them on April 11th). I wonder if he's told his girlfriend about his marriage. But, if I don't receive the papers by the end of the month, I am going to become more aggressive with completing this divorce even if it means having him served by the sheriff.

My mind isn't being so nice to me. It wants to plan and organize things that arn't ready (not referring to the pending engagement or things related). I want to organize Greg and my income, set up the accounts for bills and such. Greg wants to open an account with Wachovia but he wants to wait until we know where we're going to live so he won't have to get new checks (which makes sense), but I want him to open the account now! I want to set up our joint account and savings account. I want to plan out our bill payments and see how much money we have for fun and toys for us (Greg is dreaming of a flat screen television and I am dreaming of a new car). There's so much that I want to do right now that I can't!

I am going to help Greg pay off his Dell bill so that I can order my laptop through his account. I've already looked online and I know what I want. I also want my own camera. I'm parshall to Sony and would like to get one for myself. I've been using my Mom's camera and my brother's Dell (laptop). Greg has a great camera and desktop but I want my own. Besides, Greg camera isn't pocket friendly and I would like to get a camera that is portable for either my pocket or purse.

Speaking of purses, while Greg and I were at Annapolis Mall on Friday, we went to Wilson's Leather. I wanted to look for a new purse and my Mom suggested them. Their selection was ok. I didn't really find exactly what I wanted but I considered settling with an item. Greg, on the other hand, found something that he wanted to replace his current 'bag' (that he keeps his 'important' items in). Wilson's Leather was having a sale of 'buy one get one half price' and both bags were on sale for $48. Greg talked me out of buying both bags. We need to save the money for our security deposit and he's right. Plus, since I didn't find exactly what I wanted I shouldn't settle because of the sale and the fact that he found something he wanted. And, he's right. But, at least I have more idea's for Father's Day gifts.

Greg commented again how much he enjoys our relationship and how we're able to talk to each other about anything on our mind. Over the weekend, Greg and I had another serious conversation reguarding our relationship (not referring to engagement or marriage). There are some things that pop into Greg's mind and he's thankful that he can talk to me about it rather than surpress the thoughts. I'm assuming that Greg's past relationships weren't as open as ours. My past relationship was open with Adam though he wasn't open with me. I even told Adam that I was cheating on him (before I met Greg) and he only response was 'ok'. I told him why I was doing it and I even told him before I did it that I was thinking about doing it and he still didn't say ro so anything to tell me not to. The relationship I had with Adam is no where near as close (on all levels) as the relationship Greg and I have.

Stuff that's been going on...

Ugh, it's been a long week and there's still one more day before the weekend!!

This week has been so emotionally stressful! I have a sick baby, a car that needs new breaks (urgently), Greg and I have been having 'issues' (though nothing too serious) and just a shit load of small things.

Well, as for Amelia, we are going to try a new formula. Her doc suggested a soy based formula so we'll see how that goes (but if you want to read the details of what's been going on with her, you can read all about it here: http://frye79-lifewithamelia.blogspot.com/).

The breaks on my car have become worse. I've known for a while that I will need to replace them but with all that's been going on since the beginning of the new year, it's been impossible for me to get anything done, personally. Plus, this is something that is going to set me back a couple hundred dollars and I haven't been able to save. So, this Monday or Tuesday, my breaks have finally begun to scream at me whenever applied. So, I called my Mom and Van for help, which they are going to do. And, the plan is to drop off my car on Saturday morning at some place in Millersville. They gave me an estimate of $275 for the complete job. I just hope that this will be a simple break job and not require anything more extensive. I am hoping that I will receive my bonus (given to me in Visa Gift Cards) from work soon so I can give them to Mom and Van as some form of repayment.

Tuesday was Greg's 29th Birthday. I tried to take him out to dinner, but Amelia wasn't cooperating. We attempted to eat at Olive Garden (I haven't been there in ages and that was all the way in Westminster) and ended up ordering everything to go. Greg was kind enough to drive all the way back to my place so we could eat together. It feels good to be able to give Greg things for his birthday this year. So far, I've given him 3 new shirts, a $15 iTunes card, new lip balm, taken him out to dinner and lunch, and then there is the surprise for this weekend of which I am so happy that we'll be able to do.

Adam finally confirmed that he received the divorce papers. He says that he doesn't know what part to sign and I told him the part where he is agreeing to the terms of the divorce and I haven't heard from him since. I really hope this divorce goes through smoothly.

As I mentioned in the earlier post, I'm still feeling... 'blah' about what's been going on between Greg and I. I really don't want to feel hurt like I do. I know why he didn't do it and such but... ugh, I just want this to go away and the only way it will is if I forget about it and move on (without thinking about it; yeah, easier said than done at times). Greg wasn't very chatty via email today. And, I feel that is partly due to me telling him that I am still hurt, though not as much as I was before which I believe is a good sign, about his actions (or lack thereof). All he wrote back was ":(" and I replied with "Would you rather know the truth or have me tell you something just to make you feel better?". He never replied. But, he did call after I picked Amelia up from the sitters though we didn't talk about 'it'.

At least there is some positiveness going on (sorta)...

My cycle is completely over!

This evening, at work, I was told by the Chief Of Operations that they are going to use my phone calls as examples to share for some big executives in the company! I am in the sales/marketing team (and there are only two others which were recently brought on as permanent employees and I am still a temp, for now...) and they chose me as the best example. But, I have to give credit to PRP for teaching me excellent call center skills due to their strictness; One of the 'skills' I learned was not to say 'um' or uh' during a conversation and I over heard the COO commenting to another higher-up (not an executive) about another sales team members conversations are full of 'ums' and how unprofessional the call sounds even though it was a sale. And, the COO already has a great call of mine and the only reason he isn't using this call is because I had a slight coughing fit during the verification process. Granted, I was apologetic about the coughing fit to the customer and the customer and I had developed a good re pour during the phone call... so, that is kind of exciting.

I bet you didn't know that it has taken me all day to complete this entry. As I type, it is currently 10:43 and I am watching House Hunters on HG TV. Greg should be calling soon.